How long after a break up to start dating

05-Oct-2016 20:40

Also, as different people deal with situations differently, for some dating someone else immediately works as it serves as a distraction, while some prefer taking some time out for themselves.

Now here’s the thing: we live in a culture where we’re encouraged to pull up our bootstraps and ‘get back on the horse,’ so to speak – even when it comes to matters of the heart.

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that wanting to move on and actually doing it are two very different things.

Putting yourself out there can be incredibly intimidating, and no more so than when you’re coming out of a long-term relationship.

Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall.

You need to process all the sh*tty emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship.

Now here’s the thing: we live in a culture where we’re encouraged to pull up our bootstraps and ‘get back on the horse,’ so to speak – even when it comes to matters of the heart.

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that wanting to move on and actually doing it are two very different things.

Putting yourself out there can be incredibly intimidating, and no more so than when you’re coming out of a long-term relationship.

Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall.

You need to process all the sh*tty emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship.

Amanda has counselled hundreds of individuals and couples, and, as a lecturer in psychosexual therapy and sexual health counselling at Sydney University, is an expert in the field.